Is there an ultimate plan for balancing work and family life?
One of the question every working woman faces is how to balance home and work. Well, the answer to it is a big ongoing debate that actually no one has the answer to.
Honestly, nobody can balance work and life cause no one can do it all.
There is no designed formula as to how one can balance their personal and professional life plus having time for themselves. The word “balance” in itself is difficult to attain and it causes a lot of guilt. Guilt of not being able to spend time with your family not be able to see your child’s performance at their school, not able to give enough time to your spouse or parents, not being there for your sibling and so on. Guilt of not being able to attend that important meeting at work or not able to take that work trip…the 24 hour guilt cycle just keeps pulling one down.
The guilt would only go away when you accept it that you can never do it all and that is just fine. The realization that it’s not about doing it all but just giving it the best is when you come out of that shell of guilt and start having fun at both work and home.
The key is to develop creative solutions so you can take the responsibility of your multiple roles and achieve what you want for your family and from your work.
To bring a little balance in your life you can start with these balancing tips and take it from there.
- Get organized
Work smarter and not harder by working out your priorities, delegate responsibilities, building up a schedule, blocking up time for family and sticking to it no matter what. Just as you carefully build your work schedule and follow it, do that with your family too.
If you are married then block a date night, if you have kids then keep a special day for them that is only meant for them.
- Build a support network
Do not hesitate to ask for help. Get your family involved ask your spouse, children, parents, friends, neighbors for their support whenever needed. Outsource work that does not need your supervision like grocery shopping, dry cleaning services etc.
Work together as a team and always be prepared with a back-up plan as a contingency.
- Skip the things that do not add value
There are a lot of distractions on which we waste our time. They may be as small as surfing the net or watching television but the time that you spend on this can be given to your family as their quality time. Ask yourself, what matters most to you and pull yourself up by not wasting time on things that do not add value to your busy life.
- Determine your own standards
Set your own standards whether at work or at home. Understand that you cannot be a perfectionist and cannot stretch yourself no matter what. Figure out where are the best places that you make compromise and work accordingly.
- Stay away from negative people
People who gossip complain or vent at all times can drain your energy and leave you exhausted. Stay away from such negative people as they will not add any value to you instead they take up your precious time and fill you with negative thoughts.
- Reliable childcare
Find someone you feel confident and capable of leaving your child with. Your child will pick up your guilt of you leaving them behind so find a reliable person with whom you can leave your children and then only you will be able to give your best at work.
- Me time is equally important
In the act of balancing family and work do not forget that you are the important factor here. You can only be good with others if you are good with yourself. We get so worried about taking care of everyone around us that we forget to do it for ourselves.
No matter what you choose to do, read a book, write, meditate, listen to music, gardening, dancing or just put your feet up, do it. Take out five minutes from your busy schedule for yourself and you will feel better about everything around you.